How to Tell if Your Child is the Target of Bullying

Recently, we posted an entry on how to help your child if they're being bullied, but it's not always easy to tell if someone is a target of bullying.  Most children are embarrassed or are afraid of making things worse.  They're worried about retaliation or being seen as weak.  Often times they will deny or hide it, but there are signs to be noticed.

• Unexplained or reoccurring marks and bruises
• Loss of toys, school items, money or other property
• Doesn't want to go to school or be around others
• Afraid of riding the bus
• Unusually attached and doesn't want to be left alone
• Withdrawn and evasive
• Change in behavior or personality
• Depressed, moody, or upset without seemingly any reason
• Frequent headaches, stomach pains, or misses school for sick days
• Sudden change in sleeping and eating habbits
• Bullies younger children or siblings
• Avoids school bathrooms or anywhere else without adult supervision
• Abruptly fewer friends
• Extremely hungry when they get home due to food or money being taken
• Unexplained drop in grades
• Says they feel helpless

If you do suspect your child is being bullied, let them know you're open to talking with them and that you won't get mad if they tell you something.  Sometimes children don't feel that they'll be believed so it is important that you let them know you are there to support them.  Also, talk to your child's friends, teachers and anyone else who might have an idea of what's going on, including your child's friends' parents.  Other people may notice something and be able to help, maybe even want to help.  The most important thing is to make sure your child knows they are not alone.

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